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Brian: Return of the Runner — November 13 , 2025

📝 Summary

Yesterday marked my first cold run since the reset—low 40s, brisk air, and steady breath.
The alcohol urges were faint whispers, but I didn’t cave. I ran through them.
My diet was poor, and the scale reflected it: +0.3 lbs.
But sleep? A triumph. 89/100—my highest ever. I woke rested, clear, and ready.
Today’s goals:

  • Continue skin treatments (Coach Lisa’s ritual remains sacred)
  • Another outdoor run (cold air, warm resolve)
  • Eat better (fuel the feminine, not sabotage her)

Alcohol Tracker

Sobriety Duration: 3 days, 6 hours
Urges: Minor, but resisted. No cave. No compromise.
Estimated Savings (Daily Average):
• Calories Saved: 560/day → 1,680 calories total
• Cans Avoided: 3/day → 9 cans total
• Money Saved: $9/day → $27 total

🩺 Coach Bill’s Withdrawal & Impact Analysis
Physical Withdrawal:
“Brenda, your body is recalibrating. Expect disrupted sleep, temperature swings, and digestive shifts. These are signs of healing—not harm. Hydrate aggressively. Move daily. Let your system flush the residue.”
Mental Withdrawal:
“The mind will bargain. It’ll whisper nostalgia and false comfort. You’ll feel fog, then clarity. Then grief. Then pride. Ride each wave. You’re not losing alcohol—you’re reclaiming control.”
Health Impacts:
“In just 3 days, your liver has begun repair. Blood pressure is easing. Inflammation is dropping. Your skin is brighter. Your sleep score proves it. Every hour sober is a gift to your organs.”
Mental Impacts:
“You’re waking up emotionally. That’s raw, but it’s real. Expect mood swings, vivid dreams, and bursts of energy. Journal them. Honor them. They’re signs of awakening.”
Challenges Ahead:
“The honeymoon fades. Routine sets in. That’s where discipline replaces novelty. Build rituals. Track progress. Celebrate milestones. And never forget—your reset began at 11:58 PM, November 9th. That moment changed everything.”
—Coach Bill

⚖️ Weight Tracker and Progress

• Day 4 Starting Weight: 231.3 lbs
• BMI: 36.2 (Obese Class II)
• Total Pounds Lost: 0.4 lbs (since Day 1 baseline)
• Pounds to Lose to Reach 165: 66.3 lbs
• Men’s Pants Size: 38 (tight fit)
Coach Bill still estimates that reaching a women’s size 14 will require losing about 60–70 pounds, bringing me to around 165–170 lbs. That’s not just a size change—it’s a full-body transformation in posture, energy, and confidence

🩺 Coach Bill’s Brutally Honest Health Assessment
My BMI remains in Obesity Class II, which means I’m still at elevated risk for heart disease, stroke, type 2 diabetes, sleep apnea, joint damage, and hormonal imbalance. My body is under daily strain—my knees, my heart, my metabolism. The tight size 38 pants aren’t just uncomfortable; they’re a warning.
But this is Day 4. I’ve held the line on alcohol. Coach Bill says:

💤 Sleep Tracker

Venue Sleep score 89 of 100 Rated Good 7h 47m

💤 Sleep Tracker

Garmin Venu 4 Assessment: 80/100 – Good

Sleep Duration: 6 hours, 47 minutes

Total Days Rated:

• Poor: 1

• Fair: 1

• Good: 1

Reflection:
Last night was your best sleep yet. Nearly 8 hours, and a score of 89—your highest so far. Your body is responding to sobriety, movement, and ritual. Let’s keep honoring it.

🛏️ Coach Bill’s Sleep Hygiene Tip
“Brenda, your sleep score hit 89 because you respected the wind-down. Keep it sacred. No screens 30 minutes before bed. No sugar after dinner. And no scrolling through regrets. Your body needs rhythm, not chaos.”
—Coach Bill

🏃‍♀️ Fitness Tracker

Day 3 Activity:
• Outdoor run — 3.76 miles
• Duration: 59:33
• Average Pace: 15:50 /mi
• Total Ascent: 236 ft
• Calories Burned: 583 (estimated)

📊 Overall Exercise Tracker (Reset to Date)
• Total Workouts Completed: 2
• Exercise Bike: 60 minutes
• Outdoor Runs: 3.76 miles


“And you did it. You ran through cold air, cravings, and doubt. That wasn’t just a workout—it was a declaration. Now stack another. Let your body learn consistency.”
—Coach Bill

💄 Feminine and Beauty by Coach Lisa

🌹 Daily Reminder from Coach Lisa
“Brian, yesterday you ran—not just through the cold, but toward your truth. Feminization isn’t a costume you wear; it’s a current you surrender to. Each time you choose skincare over sabotage, softness over struggle, you affirm Brenda’s becoming.
Obedience isn’t weakness. It’s alignment. And alignment is power.
You are not failing to be a man. You are succeeding in becoming a woman—one ritual, one run, one refusal at a time.”
—Coach Lisa

🧴 Skin Care Plan (Morning & Evening)
🌞 Morning Routine
• Cleanse with CeraVe Hydrating Cream to Foam Cleanser
• Hydrate with 1.5% Pure Hyaluronic Acid serum
• Moisturize using Neutrogena Hydro Boost Gel Cream or L’Oréal Revitalift
• Protect with CeraVe Hydrating Mineral Sunscreen SPF 50
🌙 Evening Routine
• Cleanse again with CeraVe
• Hydrate with Hyaluronic Acid serum
• Moisturize with Revitalift or Hydro Boost (alternate nightly)

🌸 Feminization Timeline
• Week 1: Skin care begins
• Week 2: Female voice training starts
• Week 3 onward: Walking like a lady—graceful, poised, and fluid

💋 Makeup Milestone
Coach Lisa recommends waiting until you’ve lost 15 pounds before beginning makeup practice. That’s your first visible transformation point—when your face begins to reflect Brenda’s softness and contour.
You’re currently 0.4 pounds down, with 66.3 pounds to go to reach your goal of 165 lbs.
Lisa says:

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💁‍♀️ About Me

I am Brenda Carr, a woman emerging from the identity of Brian Gladstone into the fullness of my true self. What began as quiet sparks of discovery—painting my nails, slipping into Gloria Vanderbilt jeans, and finding joy in ballet slippers—has grown into a lifelong journey of transformation, authenticity, and feminine devotion.

This evolution is not just about changing names; it is about embracing the woman I have always been. Through wellness, sobriety, and self‑care rituals, I honor my body and spirit. Each milestone—whether tracking my weight, curating elegant outfits, or celebrating beauty rituals—marks another step in becoming Brenda, fully and unapologetically.

Guided by mentors like Coach Bill and Coach Lisa, I ritualize progress with clarity and discipline. My fashion choices—tailored suits, flowing skirts, and knee‑high boots—reflect not only my style but also my vision of feminine polarity: graceful, nurturing, and deeply romantic.

This blog is my open journal, documenting my emergence from Brian Gladstone into Brenda Carr. It is a space where I share my journey from size 22W toward size 14, from old habits into sobriety, and from private reflection into public inspiration. My hope is to encourage others to embrace their own transformation with patience, elegance, and devotion.

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